Since I met my husband, my life has changed in so many ways.

I will start by saying, I lucked out. I married a truly amazing human. He is kind, funny, smart, and all the things. He makes me laugh. He drives me crazy. He lets me be crazy. He lets me cry and makes me feel safe. He is my favorite person. He IS my best friend.

I have learned so much about myself and about life in my years with him. I have grown and we have grown together. I didn’t know it was possible to love someone so much. I didn’t know it was possible to love myself so much.

I never felt like I could be completely myself with anyone before I met him. I had parts of myself I felt I had to hide from the world. I would bend and mold and change myself to fit in with everyone around me. I felt like I was constantly being swept up in a tornado of expectations.

He gave me a safe place to land.

A home that is where ever we are, together. The space to be myself. The ability to completely let go and know I can count on him to pick up any pieces of myself that I can’t fix alone.

We have faced so many obstacles together and we never let them break us. They brought us closer. Taught us what we are capable of and that it doesn’t always have to be 50/50 in marriage. And it isn’t always 100/100.

Sometimes someone needs to take over for the other partner. Sometimes you will need someone to take care of you and carry the weight. Sometimes you will need to carry that weight for your partner. I get sick of hearing it has to be 50/50 or 100/100. That’s not real life. We are humans and none of us are always our best. But we are a team. A WWE tag team and sometimes we are both in the ring and sometimes we aren’t, but we always win.

Yes…I really did just compare our marriage to WWE wrestling….

In movies we watched growing up it would stop at the wedding and Disney would announce, “and they lived happily ever after”. I have learned the important part isn’t the “happily”. It is the “ever after”. You are going to have hard times that aren’t always happy. The point is you work to get through them together. So, that you can make it to the ever after.

There are no doubts in my mind that he is my ever after. Happily, sad, annoyed, hilarious, calm, exciting, hard, scary, good, bad, forever, ever after.