Next week my husband and I will be celebrating our 4th wedding anniversary.
I realize it isn’t a long time compared to the couples that have been together 10, 25, 50, plus years. But, I am excited to celebrate just the same. To say that I love my husband would be an understatement.
I would love to say that I have words of wisdom to share and have discovered the secret to a perfect marriage. But the truth is, no ones marriage is the same and what works for one couple might not work for the next. So, instead of sharing my advice on marriage, I am going to share some things I have learned in the last 4 years.
Marriage is FUN!
Seriously. It is so much fun! When you marry the right person, every day is like a sleepover with your best friend. We have been stuck at home for the last year because of Covid and I have loved every minute of it. My husband makes me laugh all the time. I am not ashamed to say he has literally made me pee my pants laughing.
Marriage isn’t always easy.
I love being married to my husband and, yes, we have SO much fun together. But that doesn’t mean every day is easy. The first year we had so many things thrown at us. All while navigating this new world of living together and figuring out how to compromise with each others quirks. The important thing is that no matter what, we faced things together. We were always on the same team. Regardless if the other person was right or wrong, we stuck together. When we don’t agree something we figure out a way to compromise and make things work.
Marriage Changes
Every year is different than the next. You change. Your partner changes. Your relationship changes. And if you are lucky, that bond and love gets deeper and stronger. You grow together. Our relationship today doesn’t look like our relationship 4 years ago. And in 20 years our marriage won’t look the same as it does today.
Marriage is a Choice
Regardless if you are like me and believe in fate, or you are like my husband and believe in chance, marriage is a choice. Every day you choose. Just like you choose to get out of bed or go to work. You choose to give yourself to someone else. You choose to love and to give 100%. Not 50/50. 100%. When you are down and need lifted up, your partner chooses to help bring you back up. When your partner feels lost you choose to help them find their way. Every day I choose my husband. And I will choose him over and over again, above all else.
Meagan Fowler 
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